"It’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s what happens in you”
The phone call ended like this today. “It’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s what happens in you”
I’m writing this post after a discussion with a personal friend of mine, a teacher, my mentor and my mother. A woman whom has tirelessly given to less fortunate people in many times when she herself was less fortunate. I thank her. She inspires me to keep writing, giving and following my career aspirations. I hope this post benefits you an dothers.
The Cure
Let me reassure you happiness can't be bought, mental peace cannot be injected or swallowed and no market can sell mental peace and happiness.
Overcoming difficulties at work and home has no magic pill, prescribed or non-prescribed. The big Pharmaceuticals will debate this……
The latest research is clear that the key to a happy life, now and in future is to develop a happy healthy mind. However you also need to take action and shift your focus. Many of my past clients have benefited from learning sustainable mind shifting strategies. Whether this is cognitive behavioural or solution based coaching.
The important point is that happiness in the workplace can be positively changed if you only change the way you think about the situation, how to reframe the situation, and how to take a different course of action.
Have you noticed the negative ripple effect of some people in your organisational environment?
When people in the workplace are negative and criticising, they are uncertain about the future, their roles and responsibilities, there is a lack of praise and recognition. This obviously impacts on workers happiness considerably. Hence, productivity is reduced.
Tolerance
Tolerance is very important. If you have tolerance, you can easily overcome difficulties. If you have little tolerance or none at all, the smallest thing immediately irritates you. One of the keys to success is determination, with an optimistic attitude.
The happiness advice is pretty consistent. If people seek happiness from the outside world, from money or power, then they are in for one heck of a roller coaster ride of ups and downs.
Real peace comes from within oneself.
Unless our work or careers are linked to our values, meaning and purpose and our existence, then we are going to be limited in our ability to feel completely happy.
I know and confess in the past I have done work for works sake. And, I wasn’t very happy.
One of the key messages to take way from this post is to try to strike a balance between your outside world and your internal world and focus on trying to get the inner world balancing in the right direction. However, let me remind you the outside world also needs modifying. That is, your role in it.
Remember, it’s the inner experience that matters most not the outer experience. So those of you stuck in a negative workplace or whatever situations start sorting the inner experience out.
There is one enemy, it’s inside you. It is natural for all of us at work, home or with friends to externalise the causation of our unhappiness. This results in anger, attachment, jealousy and hatred, these are the real enemy of our happiness journey.
Here is a free ticket for the happiness ride, enjoy and be happy.
12 Free strategies to help increase your happiness at work and home
1. In the past month, how happy have I been really? (be truthfully honest )
2. Where would I rather be on a score of 1 to 10?
On a scale of 1 to 10 how rate yourself (1 very unhappy, 5 happy sometimes,10 very happy)
Ask yourself the following and answer them by writing your answers down. It helps, trust me.
1. What small things could I do to move myself further to that score that I want?
2. What is my role in the current work or life situation that makes me unhappy?
3. What and how am I contributing to the situation
4. What are my attitudes that I change about the situation?
5. What positive actions can I take to get a positive outcome?
6. What will I take responsibility for in this situation?
7. What changes am I not prepared to take in this situation?
8. If I don’t change how happy will I be?
9. If I do change how much happier might I be?
10. What’s stopping me from changing?
Journey well,
Matt Cartwright
Inspiring People, Inspiring Business, Inspiring Results
© Copyright 2008 -12
The phone call ended like this today. “It’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s what happens in you”
I’m writing this post after a discussion with a personal friend of mine, a teacher, my mentor and my mother. A woman whom has tirelessly given to less fortunate people in many times when she herself was less fortunate. I thank her. She inspires me to keep writing, giving and following my career aspirations. I hope this post benefits you an dothers.
The Cure
Let me reassure you happiness can't be bought, mental peace cannot be injected or swallowed and no market can sell mental peace and happiness.
Overcoming difficulties at work and home has no magic pill, prescribed or non-prescribed. The big Pharmaceuticals will debate this……
The latest research is clear that the key to a happy life, now and in future is to develop a happy healthy mind. However you also need to take action and shift your focus. Many of my past clients have benefited from learning sustainable mind shifting strategies. Whether this is cognitive behavioural or solution based coaching.
The important point is that happiness in the workplace can be positively changed if you only change the way you think about the situation, how to reframe the situation, and how to take a different course of action.
Have you noticed the negative ripple effect of some people in your organisational environment?
When people in the workplace are negative and criticising, they are uncertain about the future, their roles and responsibilities, there is a lack of praise and recognition. This obviously impacts on workers happiness considerably. Hence, productivity is reduced.
Tolerance
Tolerance is very important. If you have tolerance, you can easily overcome difficulties. If you have little tolerance or none at all, the smallest thing immediately irritates you. One of the keys to success is determination, with an optimistic attitude.
The happiness advice is pretty consistent. If people seek happiness from the outside world, from money or power, then they are in for one heck of a roller coaster ride of ups and downs.
Real peace comes from within oneself.
Unless our work or careers are linked to our values, meaning and purpose and our existence, then we are going to be limited in our ability to feel completely happy.
I know and confess in the past I have done work for works sake. And, I wasn’t very happy.
One of the key messages to take way from this post is to try to strike a balance between your outside world and your internal world and focus on trying to get the inner world balancing in the right direction. However, let me remind you the outside world also needs modifying. That is, your role in it.
Remember, it’s the inner experience that matters most not the outer experience. So those of you stuck in a negative workplace or whatever situations start sorting the inner experience out.
There is one enemy, it’s inside you. It is natural for all of us at work, home or with friends to externalise the causation of our unhappiness. This results in anger, attachment, jealousy and hatred, these are the real enemy of our happiness journey.
Here is a free ticket for the happiness ride, enjoy and be happy.
12 Free strategies to help increase your happiness at work and home
1. In the past month, how happy have I been really? (be truthfully honest )
2. Where would I rather be on a score of 1 to 10?
On a scale of 1 to 10 how rate yourself (1 very unhappy, 5 happy sometimes,10 very happy)
Ask yourself the following and answer them by writing your answers down. It helps, trust me.
1. What small things could I do to move myself further to that score that I want?
2. What is my role in the current work or life situation that makes me unhappy?
3. What and how am I contributing to the situation
4. What are my attitudes that I change about the situation?
5. What positive actions can I take to get a positive outcome?
6. What will I take responsibility for in this situation?
7. What changes am I not prepared to take in this situation?
8. If I don’t change how happy will I be?
9. If I do change how much happier might I be?
10. What’s stopping me from changing?
Journey well,
Matt Cartwright
Inspiring People, Inspiring Business, Inspiring Results
© Copyright 2008 -12
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